Whether it is a little white lie, a whopper, an exaggeration, or something we think we are saying to protect another, lying diminishes every aspect of our being and expressive power. It strips the voice of strength and warmth. Breathing becomes shallow and slightly held, the entire muscle system contracts and phonation is imprecise. Sensory receptors are blocked and resonance cannot be fully accessed.
We tell lies when we feel overwhelmed and rushed, and want to get something or someone off our to do list. We exaggerate when we lack self worth and imagine this will get us what we think we deserve. We claim others’ accomplishments as our own when we are uninspired or inept. We twist facts to diminish others when our beliefs are mistaken or we lack curiosity.
Lies have a way of being revealed and we lose far more than could ever be gained. We might need to practice moving through difficult conversations, but the more we do it, the more empowered and insightful we become. Taking responsibility and having humility about our limitations often inspires others to help us in ways beyond anything we could hope for.
There is always a way to tell a truth and be kind. And it should always be done in person, if possible. Sending half-truths, excuses and terminations by instant message and email rob us of precious opportunities to deepen and share our humanity. And amazingly, our voice still suffers the diminishing effects.
If there are chronic issues in your singing voice, especially in the shift from the speaking range into the upper voice, ask yourself if there is any place in your life where your are withholding truth. Find a way to make those amends or express your grace to reclaim the whole of your expressive capacity for singing as well as for speaking.